Domestic Violence Awareness Month 2016 is here and if you are a victim of such abuse, our hearts go out to you. But, if you have never experienced such evil in your life, then you really ought to thank the heavens!
Domestic Violence against Men
Domestic Violence is normally viewed among women and children but, did you know that one in four men in the U.S. is victims of domestic violence? Why even go so far? Take a look at our own country, India – While there are an astounding 56% of women who have reported being victims of domestic violence, there are 59.5% of MEN who have reported being victims of domestic violence!
Domestic Violence Awareness Month 2016
I was honestly shocked when I read this and, when I looked into it, I was even more disgusted by the fact that our law has absolutely nothing to help back these men who are victims of such violence. The law only recognizes men as perpetrators of violence against women and never as victims themselves.
How is a Man being a Victim of Domestic Violence Possible?
A man is put under psychological pressure right from a very young age. He is told “boys don’t cry” and to “act like a man!” As they grow they are put under the same pressure of “being a man”. But, ‘being a man’ does not mean being emotionally dead or over powering and controlling.
Much like women, men face psychological trauma, verbal and physical abuse and, yes, even rape! What many of us fail to realize is that all these feelings are HUMAN. And being human covers BOTH man and woman.
What Kind of Domestic Violence does a Man Face?
Like any other victim of domestic violence, men also face three types –
1. Physical Abuse
An approximate of 22% of male victims of domestic violence, has faced physical abuse in India. This could be the doing of a member of the family or the victim’s partner.
Quite a few social experiments showed that most people intervene when they find a woman being physically abused by a man. But, no one intervenes when they find a woman physically assaulting a man.
2. Emotional Abuse
An astounding 59% of male victims of domestic violence face emotional and psychological abuse in India.
This kind of abuse can be verbal name-calling, degradation in public or in front of loved ones or, mind games.
While mind games might seem like all fun and games, this is not healthy for the victim at all. It can cause the victim to lose self-confidence, to become highly depressed and in many cases it even leads to suicide.
3. Sexual Abuse
Unlike the 25% of female victims of domestic violence in India, there is a lesser amount (17%) of men who reported being sexually abused.
The highest rate of sexual abuse among men is faced in their infant or teenage years. In rare occasions a man might be sexually assaulted by his wife (martial rape).
What can We Do?
During the Domestic Violence Awareness Month 2016 (October), keep in mind that ANYONE can be a victim of this type of violence. It is important for us to remember that such cases against both men and women are NOT to be taken lightly.
If you know someone who is a victim of domestic abuse, help them get out of it as soon as possible. If you are a woman of Indian citizenship, then you do have the option of filing a complaint under law. Unfortunately, our law offers no support to male victims of domestic violence. So, all I can say is get out of it as soon as possible. And those who know a man, who might be a victim, make it a point to help him out of this or you may risk losing him for forever!
Domestic Violence is not something to be taken lightly!
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