Calling off engagement

An engagement is the initial agreement a couple makes before marriage. It is like the initial vows made before the official ones on the wedding day. Engagements are considered formal and usually happen a short period before the wedding date. This could be a few weeks or a few months. A ring is used to symbolize this covenant in many countries. That is why most people shop for expensive engagement rings to keep their partners happy.

A lot of things can happen during your engagement period. You may end up having a fight with the person you intend to spend the rest of your life with. Calling off your engagement is one of the toughest decisions a person could ever make. The chances of falling into depression are quite high. Many would prefer not to date again and end up looking for casual encounters from various online dating sites, to avoid disappointment.

 I found myself in a situation where I had to call off my engagement because of misunderstandings I was having with my partner. It was a tough moment in my life, but there was nothing left to do than pick up the pieces and move on. I learned a lot of things when I called off my engagement. Let me give you a breakdown of the things I learned from that excruciating experience. 


This is one of the virtues I learned after the agonizing experience I went through calling off my engagement. I know many of you might find it hard to forgive your partner after hurting you. This is because of the emotions and resources you have invested in them. I found a place in my heart to forgive my ex-partner so that we could move on more quickly. It would still be a burden for me if we’d moved on without forgiving each other.

Letting Go

Before reaching the decision to call off my engagement, I learned that there is life after this experience and letting go is better than staying in something that is not working out for you. This is even after all the sacrifice and commitment I made. Never stay in a place or state you are not comfortable in. It is important to let go so that you can have peace of mind and a fresh breath of life.

Understanding Each Other

Fights and arguments are a common thing in most relationships. They either make you or break you. The kind of approach you have when solving your issues is one thing that determines whether you will be together forever. Unfortunately, it was different on my side because I tried to be good but everything was taken for granted. You need to understand each other as partners to solve the issues affecting your relationship.

Know Your Partner

I also learned it is essential to understand your partner better before making any move. Making a rushed decision is something that made me fall into such a mistake. If possible, you should take up to three years to get to know each other before making any moves.